Mental Healing – Is Your Physical Illness in Your Mind and Can You Self-Heal?

There is little time spent on some the more important factors to healing from an illness. We hear phrases such as “Watch your stress levels”, “Pay attention to your lifestyle”, “Watch what you eat”, and “Exercise regularly”, but how are all these things connected to one another? And, why are these things more important than popping a pill?

The idea of wholeness, holistic healing, is often considered bunk, outrageous and new age-y. In truth, a wholeness approach to healing should be at the foundation of every person’s life and western medicine should be an advanced practice for additional support – not as a replacement to our whole body functionality.


The idea of self-healing is a rather foreign concept for most westerners.  The first reaction of many modern day people is to visit a doctor when they feel ill, especially Americans.  It’s no secret that most modern day doctors are heavily influenced by sales reps and the government to administer un-natural prescribed medicines that have a longer list of negative side effects than benefits to the user.   Then, the user needs another pill to counteract the side effects from the pill they originally need to take to help one health issues that causes even more health issues.

There is little time spent on some the more important factors to healing from an illness.  We hear phrases such as “Watch your stress levels”, “Pay attention to your lifestyle”, “Watch what you eat”, and “Exercise regularly”, but how are all these things connected to one another?  And, why are these things more important than popping a pill?

The idea of wholeness, holistic healing, is often considered bunk, outrageous and new age-y.   In truth, a wholeness approach to healing should be at the foundation of every person’s life and western medicine should be an advanced practice for additional support – not as a replacement to our whole body functionality.

Let’s return back to the questions above – these are statements we hear often, but how do we achieve such advice?   One of the unique gifts of being a human being in comparison to other species on earth is our ability to visualize the future and create our own realities.  In some cases, the vision we have for ourselves is truer than who we are today.  The vision you have for yourself today creates the person you are tomorrow.

When a person loves life – life breaths love into the person.  This person is filled with healing energy – love, compassion, connection to others.   When a person hates life – life creates a slow death.

One of my favorite quotes from Lao Tzu says, “At birth, people are soft and yielding.  At death, they are hard and stiff.  All green plants are tender and yielding.  At death, they are dry and brittle.  When hard and rigid, we consort with death.  When soft and flexible, we affirm greater life.” (TaoTeChing76)

What does that mean?  Well, I can tell you now that it is the opposite of what most of us are taught.  We are taught to be these strong people from the inside out, firm in our beliefs and attachments.  A soft heart is a weakness.  A tough mind is ideal.  Never be vulnerable.  Control all your emotions.  Our way of living is often handed down from our parents or institutions who say we must do these things in order:  get a stable job, get married, have kids, work your entire life and save for retirement.   Also, get your fun out while you are young since adulthood is all about business!  It’s no wonder people do not want to grow up!  That sounds far from fun!  Maybe for some people it is, but for the majority of people I imagine most thinking “I wish I traveled more”, “I wish I let myself love more”, and “I wish I followed my dreams”

So, what is the secret?  The goal is to life in wholeness.  Embrace all of yourself.   We must affirm a greater life – inside and outside.   You must help your mind, body and spirit connect by creating a conduit for self-healing energy.

It has been proven time and time again that people can worsen their health with stress, worry and anxiety.  People can also heal themselves with a placebo pill just with faith alone – the belief of it working.

How do you begin with self-healing?  Well, it begins within your Heart-Mind connection.

The purpose of forming a stronger heart-mind connection is to really tackle the issue of letting lower emotions such as anger, worrying, anxiety and depression take over your life and consume your entire being.  It is natural to have these emotions, but they should be felt and flow through you by being processed accordingly.

If these feelings persist, they take energy – the energy that you need for your own self-healing.   When you successfully align your mind-heart, you will notice a larger abundance of self-healing energy by shifting through all the unnecessary negative energy you have been holding onto for years – even decades.

Here are some ways to increase your Heart-Mind connection:

  • Tell Your Mind to Move Over and Make Room For Your Heart.

It is no secret that most people value intelligence over emotions and the mind over the heart.  The heart is irrational and sometimes makes no sense.

To remedy this we let the mind become our conductor to life by keeping emotions in check – pushing them away.  The truth is feelings and emotions are NEVER wrong.

We are obsessed with having our emotions validated by others to know if they are right or wrong.  Emotions are always right.  They are always right because they serve us as cues to what we need to heal or what needs our attention.

If you have an emotional trigger reaction to when someone does something, this is your cue to figure out why.  How deep or far back does it go?  When you understand the source of your emotional trigger, you can heal it and eliminate it so the next time you are in the same situation you will respond with more awareness or most likely catch it before it even happens.

This is how the heart becomes your conductor and the mind becomes a trusted advisor by creating the heart-mind connection.  Both serve a purpose.

Imagine the roles of a traditional male-female couple.  The woman behind the man helps him to understand his motives and his purpose, helps him heal his past by being a safe haven to the outside world, she is there for him through thick and thin.  He then protects his woman physically, emotionally and spiritually, and then carries out his mission-purpose to the outside world.  Their relationship is priority above all.

This is the traditional masculine-feminine principle, but these 2 energies live in both men and women.  Modern day couples tend to struggle with roles in relationships, but it could be remedied when both people understand how they each are energetically matched.

It is hard when both man & woman are mainly feminine or mainly masculine in energy.  A feminine man and masculine woman can have a very successful love relationship.   Each partner being balanced in masculine & feminine can also work well even if it’s harder to define the roles.

  • Discover Your True Purpose – Your Essence.

This cannot be achieved unless #1 is complete.  Your essence cannot be found within the mind.  It is found within the heart.  The mind is only your advisor on how to visualize your purpose and make it a reality.

There are signs and methods to discover your purpose in life:

1) You can list all the things that come naturally to you since childhood.  Maybe they morphed into something different as an adult such as a natural inclination for rhythms like in dancing, singing or a playing music, but as an adult you are just a music lover.

2) You have an odd fear attached to something like performance anxiety or public speaking.  You always want to speak up in your philosophical club, but you are too scared of how your odd views will be taken.   This is a cue that you should be sharing more of what scares you most.

3)It is something that has nagged you your entire life.  You have always wanted to build orphanages in other countries, but you cannot find out how to practically do it so you write it off as impossible for you – maybe someone else.

The solution?  Discover your true purpose and break down your walls that keep your from it.

  • Break Down Your Walls.

There are multiple people residing in every person.

1) There is the child who is full of wonder, no limits to their potential and is completely vulnerable.  This is usually the time in a person’s life where people are most themselves – as a child.

2) The person you are today who is normally full of multiple influences from childhood and times within their life that teach certain conditioning that convinces them to operate from the ego.

3)The person you will become due to your current mindset and/or visualization power of the future you.

The current self needs to visit all the other people within you – the child and the vision.

Once you have targeted your purpose with the help of you heart-mind connection, you can now target what keeps you from being your true self by visiting your past self.

By using the emotional triggers explained in #1 you can begin shifting through what needs healing so that it no longer controls your destiny or gets in the way of you achieving your destiny.

When you do this, you can then place more time into the vision of yourself without wasting time going in wrong directions.  Understanding your past is no easy feat.  This requires a lot of forgiveness, support and extra learning.

  • Actualize Your True Self.

Now that you have done the ground work to form your connections to your heart, discover your essence, and break down your barriers, you can now be yourself.  Your true self.

This is not a step I can guide you through since this is your own destiny and you are the only one who has the answers.   However, I do wish you luck with your journey!

If you stumble along the way, make sure to set up systems to get yourself back on track.  Create a village of supportive friends, have a journal with all your goals and thoughts to refer to occasionally, create a dream board, etc.

Once you have reached this level, you will understand that you can visualize yourself being healthy and your body will respond with a blend of positive action and belief.

At this point, you might be asking yourself “why can’t I just eat right and workout?”  Quick answer – you can.  Some people do this with much success, but normally these people enjoy both and it helps them to create positive self-healing energy.  This is not the case for everyone.   Some people require a wider, higher degree in the holistic healing approach.

What are your thoughts on the idea we can self-heal?

14 Insights About Karma You Might Not Know

You Reap What You Sow – this is the basic understanding of how to define Karma and how the term is used by most people when explaining a reaction to a negative action. Its equivalent is Newton’s Law, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Still, there is much more to karma than most people realize.

You Reap What You Sow – this is the basic understanding of how to define Karma and how the term is used by most people when explaining a reaction to a negative action. Its equivalent is Newton’s Law, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

To understand the full extent of this article and how it relates to Karma, you must be aware that it is closely related to reincarnation. Today, there are thousands of documented cases of reincarnation, the most prevalent study is one administered by Dr. Ian Stevenson and his colleagues of University of Virginia where they recorded 2,500+ cases. In approximately 1200 of these cases, the child’s past life memories could be objectively validated through research. In none of the cases was the child a famous person in the prior incarnation.
If you would like to know more, here is a great site:  iisis

For now, I will continue with some expanded knowledge on karma:

1)      Karma is NOT a punishment.  Karma is for us to learn and grow. Every situation is a reward by offering us a lesson.  Below when I use the term “correct karma” – if you behaved badly with or without your knowledge you are not correcting karma by seeking forgiveness which you should do anyways to heal. It means your lesson has been learned or you have just become aware to something you were previously blind to, the reason you needed to seek forgiveness in the first place. Your awareness has expanded to understanding your actions and reactions.

2)      Some situations are not due to karma.  Not everything bad that happens to you is your fault. There are always random events of people creating new bad karma and you can be caught in the middle of it. This person will need to correct their karma to you in this life or the next lives. Being said, this does not happen as often as you might think.

3)      Karma does not always take effect in this lifetime.  Sometimes what you do in this life time affects your next life. Sometimes you are being rewarded or punished for choices made in your previous life.

4)      Incarnating into Poverty or War could mean 3 different things –  1) You are being punished for previous life acts and propelling yourself forward to a better life will not be an easy feat.
2) Your higher self knows that a hard beginning will propel you forward to achieving a much better life.  3) You are a spiritually advanced soul who has incarnated to help other people accumulate positive karma by allowing them to help you or you are an inspirational teacher for those less fortunate. This last reason reminds me of a video I recently watched YouTube video where a young boy and his brother conducted an experiment by pretending their youngest brother was a homeless boy on the cold streets of New York laying on the ground without a jacket covered in newspapers.
2 hours passed where people kept walking past him, most looked at him for a second and continued walking.  Some people looked at him for 5 seconds then continued walking.  In the end, the only person who stopped to help this young boy was another homeless person who gave him the jacket off his own back. Then he continued to give more – he offered some compassionate uplifting words and the spare change in his pocket for food.

5)      You can correct karma in your dreams.  When I attended an Eckankar meeting for the first time, where we discussed soul traveling, this was the first time I heard that you can correct karma and accumulate bad karma in your dreams. Throughout history, there has been an importance stated on dreams for various psychological and spiritual reasons but the one that comes most to mind is your dreams are your guide.  Dream journals, dream interpretation and lucid dreaming are practices many currently prioritize. To many, the dream state is just as real as when we are awake.  I, myself, have interesting situations where I talk about dreams with friends and we happen to have similar dreams from previous lifetimes. This one topic could be an article just itself, but that is for another day.

6)      Your thoughts can correct karma.  When you heal your lower thoughts of anger, jealousy and fear by transforming them into loving, compassionate and understanding thoughts, this will begin a streak of good karma to come your way. Our thoughts are the conductor of our actions and responses.  One could easily assume they are healed and assume the thoughts of a positive mindset, but your painful memories need to heal from the bottom up. If not, wounds can easily re-open without warning.

7)      Spiritually evolved people cannot tally negative karma – Once a person has achieved a high enough level of awareness, the universe will not allow them to dish out any more negative karma.  Any choice that puts a tally in the bad column is immediately responded to for this person to correct.  Lesson after lesson will be presented until it’s corrected. The difference between some karma taking lifetimes to correct and moments to correct is the person’s level of awareness.

8)      You might marry your enemy in a previous life – According to karmic laws, you will not be romantically attracted to a person you do not have karma with good or bad. With some people you achieved so much positive karma together in previous lives; you can feel it in their presence. With others, you might have a hot and cold relationship together or you might make hell on earth for one another – if the relationship is perplexing you could have been enemies in one or more lives.  Sometimes, the dating game can be karmic correction after karmic correction. There is a pull unknown to you, but it exists.

9)      You accumulate the most karma by raising children – Raising a child is a selfless act if you are the majority of parents.  It’s rewarding to care for a child, but the reasons are vast more than just the experience of love to give and receive. You will discover more of yourself by raising a child than any other act in life. You will discover your true strength. The connection shared while guiding your child from a baby to an adult, can be a healing process forcing you to relive your own childhood by correcting and understanding your pain with an adult mind. Then, you can share this lesson with your own child so they will not suffer in this way. Being said, not every parent goes in as a parent who has a lot to teach their children or is aware enough for the spiritual evolution process. Sometimes, it is the other way around. Your child is the teacher.

10)   Ending a Soul Connection is Bad Karma – Why end a soul connection? To not feel the connection to that person or end the pain after ending a relationship. This is something I know many people practice, but it is considered bad karma. If you end a soul connection, then your karma is not corrected and your lessons are not learned, by doing this you might project karma onto another person when it was meant for someone else (see #2). You have a connection for a reason. It is there for you both to discover.

11)   Karma is collective – Loving contributions inspire the whole with good karma. Personal contributions, like art & invention, add to the whole with good karma. Lack luster contributions have no impact. Negative contributions hurt the whole.

12)   Law of Growth – By changing who and what we are within our heart, life will follow suit and changes too.

13)   Law of Responsibility – An advanced person responds with awareness to every living creature in the Universe. Every person is responsible for their own feelings and their own destiny and you do not have the right to carry someone else’s burden for them, as this would prevent their personal growth. Most of us project our own feelings on to others. When we speak honestly about our own feelings, we take responsibility for ourselves and in doing so we release the other person too.

14)   Law of Creation – Your free will is the most powerful energy you possess. To contribute to whole, to create something for yourself – you must actively participate in life. Your personal awareness and universal awareness together can create moments that heal yourself and the collective.

“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.” 

~ Eckhart Tolle ~

“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” 

~Wayne W. Dyer ~